What men think of perimenopause and menopause?
Does your husband understand menopause? I mean, really understand menopause? You probably think that this is just the time of life where you have to leave periods and PMS. Hello, sex all month!
My husband, David, and most of the men who responded to my recent survey are fully aware of what to expect when the loves of their lives hit perimenopause and menopause. Boy, talk about being "Blindsided"
When our relationship was beaten with a torrent of hot flashes, mood swings and terrible sleepless nights and less sex, it was confusing.
Why was I so depressed? Why all this bother me? Why I do not want to be intimate with him anymore? These changes can also be confusing for the men in our lives. My husband was not sure that my feelings for him have changed or did anything to encourage my malicious behavior. Anyway, feared she would never disappear. I wanted our relationship back, but I had no idea what the cause or the cure was.
For him and most of the men I interviewed, treatment and try to understand the perimenopause and menopause is harder than PMS. "Do not come and go every 28 days or so ... once you're in, there's no turning back, so you can not rationalize the symptoms," says David. "You can not dismiss the symptoms of menopause such as" it's just that time of the month "and wait a week to shoot."
Finally, if my husband and I were looking for perimenopause and menopause specialist, and together the two hormones of happiness found. We learned that our relationship was suffering from symptoms were actually symptoms of perimenopause. And with proper care, the symptoms disappeared. More importantly, we have come to understand this chapter of my life and our relationship. In general, and as co-participants, we found a wide variety of more than 30 symptoms of menopause, to demystify this point in our lives. Knowledge is power!
Women are not the only ones who need to understand menopause. As a woman, you are half his marriage (and, to be honest, sometimes even more than that), and that half of the changes, only changes in the relationship with her. For my husband and I are going together to see a specialist of menopause is a game changer in the way we approach this period of our life together. Now our relationship is even stronger than before.
Open the conversation with the love of your life with these first three things that every woman should tell your partner about menopause:
1. It is difficult for me as a woman trying to take everything life throws giant superhuman progress. But menopause is not a better trip with friends. So do not try to do it this way! Be honest about how you feel, both physically and emotionally. Even after beating the hot flashes, mood swings and other symptoms of menopause, compared to a loss of fertility can be difficult for many women. You deserve all feeling. Do not forget.
2. It's not you, it's my hormones: Let's face it, roll ups and menopause by hormone can say and do hurtful things. Sometimes, we even have a shock. So imagine how men feel in life when they become the target of our anger! Before my husband and I have done all the effects of menopause, it felt like I had done something wrong. This could not be further from the truth!
3. I always feel attracted to you: It is important that your partner knows that when estrogen levels begin to decrease, the vagina can still frolicking on a tropical island to be resentful and abandoned in the Mojave Desert. When this happens, the sex can hurt! This can be very disturbing for a couple who is normally very active sexually satisfied. But do not worry, fans, nothing to do! With some lube and / or hormone replacement therapy, you can return frolicking on the beach in no time.
It's no secret that communication is the key to a healthy, happy relationship. But when it comes to dealing with perimenopause and menopause, communication can be in the middle of their vows. So start talking! Believe me, you will both be so glad you did!